It had been a few days since I wrote another post again. I thought that some season in my life has been really over the rainy days and dark time seems revisited me with new kind of twist. I do know that this phase of life I can pass through this time. It is not easy! Until…

This Sunday, It’s Interesting Outlook on The Dark and Daylight. I can really take deep lessons from it. See I do not know if you notice that our life has cycle. That cycle can put us on the TOP and DOWN time. So what’s so important about our cycle of life? Before I get to that… Let’s see what CYCLE that I am talking about and why should we be really understand it.

Our life consists of many aspects like Physical, Emotional, Relationship, Finance, Spiritual and keeping balance to get all 5 main aspects is not and easy job! seriously I had been long enough to endure the cycle some of us while we are young we do not understand why things happen and for what reason.

I reminisce the time when I am not on my peak condition, it is a time where I feel I am alone and only time that can bring me to pass and show me there is a glimpse of ray of hope that can make me smile again.
I am talking about the time when I had only U$30 in my bank account and I realize that I had to do something with it again. I never like how that felt but I assuredly can say that was not an easy time to understand. I need the cash to make me survived the daily living cost. I had a few moment like this similar like back in 1998 and around 2003.

Nothing was right in my life but I persist and got through that dark tunnel of my life. Another time of mine, was when I decided how my love life (yeah, I do fall in love). I do not know why this part seems so important other than money but now I know that we are not a creature who made to be single all the time. We need to partner with somebody who ready to support your vision in life and make it to the next level of dating called relationship then take matters into serious hand called “marriage”.

Nope, I am not into marriage stage but I do realize that things happen for reason and sometime those dark times make us realize nothing can be done much unless we really take time to reflect and stay still. For me it’s getting connected to higher power that I called GOD. I am a believer yeah I am, my life has never been the same but also am a man who can fail.

Tough times or Bad Times Happen To Good People or Person That You Care So Much. But life is not always sad or down all the time. You need to actually understand that when a person is in stage of darkness, we all longing for a new ray of light in our life. That ray of light make us see the best in us near future time. Your current situation may not be the best situation to go through at the moment. But keep on having new better vision and future and I know you will pass through it.

Here is what certain in life “Death” nothing can be more certain but that’s later after we finished our greater purpose why we are here. In life other things that are certain are like “People Come and Go in Your Life”, “Door Of Opportunity Knocks In or Closed For You” “Breathing Fresh Air or Drowning In Some Conflicts” and more to that. Come and Go, Open and Close, Breathe In and Breathe Out, Put On and Put Down, Sun Rise and Sunset. More you can add some cycle that happens repetitively in your life. You can not avoid this but you can learn how to use and enjoy each cycle.

It is like enlightenment in my time, when I had someone who is so closed and ready to lay down your life then she left me was not an easy time. Truly learning to be committed and accepting her decision was something that I have to respect. I know I had to struggle with time of my singlehood, relationship that has been nurtured for the past 30 months gone ashtray. As one of us stopped fighting and gone for some other new life venture, which was not really my choice. I tried to fight it back and rebuilt it. But what’s been broken sometimes become a monument to remind me that I have had to learn it.

I’ve had to close a lot of chapter in my life and what I endured was not easy, I still struggle through it like eating the bitter pill I know I had to go through this stage so I can be a grown up man. This was the darkest time in my life. Being a responsible man who take charge of his destiny and fight the fate is a big job!

Making it to the end, I see a ray of hope now. I get better now after a heavy damaged shocked situation. I will never learn to walk on my next two feet if I never had to crawl before. I will never learn to be grateful of what I have until I lost it. Sometimes unheard cry is the best therapy of your life in state of darkness. No one listen to it, except God. Why God sit and do nothing?

Actually He is there.. when friends come and give you word of encouragement (that’s God way of saying how much He cares). When you got a pat in the back and they tell you to get up again, or the whole new perspective of life that you got that’s a wisdom that you should enjoy it more and more. I thank for the new ray of hope that shone my life and changed me to become a better person and bigger heart and fight life to next level.

In conclusion, dark times is the time where time seems so long and get so toughed. Hang on the new ray of hope is there to build you up and make you a better person. During this time, discovering and enjoying the process is the best way. Nothing can be done more except sowing goodness to your current situation. helping people and what they need: attention, energy, monetarily

daylight times is the time where you feel the joy comes in the morning and fresh air of hope and you see that you can go through the tough times without understand why is it there for you. Also it is a time of reaping, you will see how every aspects of your life get in line and becoming one fine line that you can walk on it and jump on it.

Men’s Life Cycle has to endure the best of both times to understand truly what life is. I know that when I am in my low time, I want to fly higher till I forget how low I am. When I am in sad, I want to be happy. When I am worries I know that I have assurance that my life is safe and time is the one that makes me see it. When I am sick I know I want to be healed through times and love.

I can never say enough how I love the life that is bestow upon me, once I understand this I am ready to fight to get out of my darkness and reach the light. Have Faith for Greater Glory!

Never Never Give Up On Life! Learn From Your Down Time and Get Up Again! Be Awesome !Enjoy The Process and Celebrate The Event …Your Internet Buddy, Dee Ferdinand

I got a lot of bad review about the new will smith’s movie a heroic figurine called “Hancock”.
But I always want to watch movie with bad review but got big budgeted. so I decided to go watch it tonight.

What’s interesting no one knows why the title is called Hancock but if you quick enough then you must have heard a big insurance company called “John Hancock“. Okay this movie is not about insurance but I think the message about this movie is more important than how you want to see the end. After the Iron Man and Incredible Hulk, Hancock can be a let down if you wished your superhero to play another sequel or trilogy.

Do check out the trailer here from the movie itself:

I do think that will smith is the right person to play this character other guy could be nicholas cage or edward norton. But will has proved himself that he is identical to heroine character. Interesting to see that
he did not show as a stable person emotionally and always try to get away with booze or pet (if you still remember the move ” I am Legend”).

The morale of the story is simple “Anyone can make a change from a bad start”. From a drunken, irresponsible, careless, and selfish personality. Hancock has made himself a bad reputation from time to time. He forgot his true purpose as a Hero he needs to maintain stability and also not bring another problem
to the town which is Los Angeles.

I could say more that Hancock is a person who realize his potential but got attitude problem or he is running away from being responsible for his own life and just care on how things are done on him. Until he met a PR for himself who believed in him and taught him to be a better person. He still deals with insecurities in himself not knowing what his true purpose, where he got his power and what is his past has made him a confusing personality.

Interesting enough Hancock reflects our inner potential. We may not have superhero power but we are all here with a purpose, and responsibility to take charge of our destiny. Your destiny can bring positive or negative impact to people surround you. Hancock did realize that he need help, that’s where the new outlook and new vision of him started to take place.

I do want to say that our life journey if seems meaningless, we need to find the real goals and purpose in our life. Hancock found out the truth on who is and his bigger purpose after a few struggle. Is not even easy for him after all the bad things but he can end it nicely to write a new history and live a life full of purpose.

The other thing is that at the end he is being unselfish and aim for bigger purpose and sacrifice the one that he truly care. Can you guess what it is ? I do hate to spoil the rest of the movies but I do suggest if you don’t catch it at your nearest cinema. Hire or Buy the DVD, I am sure you will be entertained much.

If you happen to browse the J. Hancock site then you will find this interesting mission statement here

“At John Hancock, we are here to help you plan for your future so you can realize your promises. Created as a life insurance company, John Hancock has since broadened its products and services to become a leading provider of financial services, delivering the products you need to create the future you desire.”

Hancock the movie show that one person can create the future his desire by making massive and extreme change in his life. And even he can do it alone… you need people to help you reach that. I hope people in John hancock realize this I am bringing some traffic to them ( my main purpose is to share you the moral of the movie)

I feel very obliged to share a lot of insight about making the right decisions in life.
Is never easy. Your right decision can make you in bigger problem than what you already have.
Your right decision can lead you to loss a lot of friends.
Your right decision can be the determining factor that a lot of people can be against you.
Your right decision can be the one single element that makes difference between failure and success.

Let’s assume you have made the right decision than the result was not like you expected. It was a total
failure. What can you do? I’d suggest change your strategy. A lot of people making a decision based
on current situation. Have you ever turned the table around? What do I mean?

Have you ever made decision based on result ? Whatever result you want to get you made your decision that can achive the result that you have set. A lot of us walking in the journey of life flow, whatever will be then will it be. It creates our life as a creature of circumstances, we do not take control of the process and event in our life but rather we are becoming victims.

We blamed our current situation as we become a victims of our own decisions. We tend to blame others for our failures. It’s funny when everything goes wrong we tend to blame but when everything goes right or smooth we forget the people that has helped us getting there.

How about if you were born in challenging situation ? Challenging financial situation, disability, racial discrimination, unwanted born by your natural parents. Can you still change your future ? Yes, there is no doubt to it. But is not easy, also nothing is impossible.

Norman Vincent Peale shared something so powerful, he has a very profound quote:

“People become really quite remarkable when they start thinking that they can do things. When they believe in themselves they have the first secret of success.”

First secret of sucess. Is to change your thinking then believe in the new changed thinking. And make decision and taking action based on the new thinking.

Have you ever felt that you started with a lot of challenges? I have had that experience when I started my entrepreneurial journey it was one of the lowest time in my life emotionally. But I kept on targeting on what I wanted in life. I do see a dot of hope that I can actually approach further and see that I am getting closer to my target of what I wanted in life.

Carl Bard is pretty unknown for his inspirational quote but read here:

“Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.”

The famous philanthropist, TV talk show host “Oprah Winfrey” did not start his life smoothly based on abused and all that she should have ended up become a wreck. But she did something in her past that has made her a very fortunate person that can help and inspire others for better life. Her interesting quote:

“Every day brings a chance for you to draw in breath, kick off your shoes and dance.”

Most of us stay where we are in comfort zone, if something not happening that means we fail to realize and take action. Bryon Pulsifer says this:

“You will never reach your goal until you start to take action, any action.”

I do like what I have seen in the life of people who were not starting right but ending as champion.
Olga Korbut has one of interesting quote about life where I categorized this as “Pushing to the limit / persistence”

“Don’t be afraid if things seem difficult in the beginning. That’s only the initial impression. The important thing is not to retreat; you have to master yourself.”

Therefore my friend, do think about how you want it to be in your life, make the right decisions to reach that goal in life that you always want it.

If you want to become a millonaire start learning about what does it take to be a millionaire, if you want to be a tycoon’s wife. Learn how to act, speak and think big as any tycoon wife has always behind the succesful tyconn. If you plan to change the world, start change your surrounding. Or if you want to invent something, start experiment today. If you happen to want people to appreciate you as who you are. Appreciate them today before you ask them to do it.

Life is an exciting journey. Let’s push through to the end as a champ!

Life Pass Another Year, And This Year Has Been A Lot of Surprised In My Journey of Being Dee Ferdinand.

I made some new year resolution when entering year 2008. And seems that there are some major changes in that resolution dude to unexpected circumstances. It was not easy as I am planning my way of what I am doing. I was in my cone of silence learned what I should do next in my life and preparing my next move. I know my destiny is shaped by my decision and people whom I am associated with.

In the big turning point of my life during month of march to june, 08. There are a lot of things that I learned about life and it wisdom. I do things that I have never done before, set an extreme goal and also associated with people whom I know that are true friends. I also learn to appreciate others better in my life, and enjoying their friendship. I had to take a bitter pill that makes me a better well groomed person. I did not refuse that I learned to endure pain and suffering even more in this year. I know it will well worth my time and my future.

My July 4th Birthday was something of remarkable with over 90 text messages in over 2 days on the 4th and 5th. I was very blessed with people whom I truly respect of how they shaped my life and my future. I can not thank you enough if you read this and have not got my reply. I tried to reply to all birthday wishes and I am trying my best to actually thank everyone. I still have you all in my heart and my mind.

I learned that the key to relationship is to actually have a friends who you can fellowship and talk about during your happy and hard times. I invited a few of my friends for b’day dinner at Hong Kong Cafe, we ordered a lot of great food and a ending it nicely with a sweet dessert. I wished there could be more people came to the dinner invites. I missed you guys but it is still a fun night. The unique thing about my b’day dinner there are some people who haven’t met each other. It was a unique opportunity to meet new friends and at the end seems like everyone knowing each other before. I can not thank enough and let’s sail on friendship to the better future. This so goes to my blog!

Here are some photos excerpt of that snapshot moment on that night:
From L - R: Vivi, Dee, Venny, Johnny, Novi, Ucok, Martin, Etha, Cornelius (Kevaz taking Picture)

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Why Be Difference is Important?

Simple, coz’ you are a unique being. Being unique it does take a courage. Why would I think of that?
see if you don’t like who you are, you are always being driven by other people opinion.
Having a courage to know your weakness and your strength it is what it takes to be unique.

Imagine this .. if you want to have a recognition from a certain social group but you look up to them, and thinking what does it take for me to be accepted in the group? I have had experience that I went to a high social class group, I did not have the branded and all of the stuff that defines to be in the group. I just came of being who I am, know who I am and what I can contribute to them. I started to show them who I am and what’s my intention. I know if I was being rejected, at least I try.

At the end, I ended up being friend and quite close and I realize that they got all the beneficial facilities but inside of them are secure being. In other say that they are already unique before joining a group. They can be in any social group class and bring himself to be accepted in any class of social levels. Interesting isn’t?

I know some of us always look up, but I also have another trivia “why don’t you look down”. Help others who are in need. When big disaster came like hurricane Katrina, tsunami, flooded, or things that are out of our control then you will find that everyone is the same and when you think your social status can define and make you in better position when in time of crisis, then I hate to say this “It does not being recognized in times of trouble”.

Back in 2007, in  Jakarta we had 80% of water flooded our city, I learned a great deal of lessons your money can only be used to help other people. Make a little difference if you are non victim, but if you are victim then your money, your car, house means nothing to flood. Disaster does not pick its victim based on social class or what you did in the past. So what is left is only you and your personality. Interesting right?

Other thing when you helped someone less fortunate, it does not need that you will be in certain social class. You just have to reach out with what you have and willing to do. Let’s make a difference world today and help others. I love giving and contribute to people’s life and make difference. I realized that my life would be no meaning if only for personal gratification. Love yourself then love other people, means discover who you are and help others.

Start helping others from little things, you never know what will makes up of them

Have an awesome and blessed weekend

Life is a choice… most people would like to be good in something but how about being Great? From Good to Great is an interesting concept well doing good is not enough is just meet the expectation of the social standard.

Being great is more than just being good. When being good is just make us feel content and feel that we have done something useful. Being great is a different stage, it is a stage of influence. Only those who have done great in life can actually being an inspiration to others. You see guy like Michael Jordan, Tiger Wood, Hugh Hefner, Barrack Obama these men has common trait.

They like being Great than just good. It does make a lot of difference to the life of other people and they are a great inspiration to us all.

So what does it take of being great? One of them is to change your strategy and do thinks that never been done before and also to push beyond the limit. This strategy alone can bring you to next level of just being good, other thing is called consistency. It’s powerful if you are doing Great for so many times people started to notice what you are doing as it is so Great. Greatness speak of itself and being a silent witness.

Being Great is a process that one must take on and its a journey of discipline, perseverance, strong fighting spirit and also always put into consistency. That’s why nothing Great comes out from just a short moment of process. Being great is like a diamond that needs to be cut in such way that takes time to create a carat that has high value.

I do see that a lot of time we insist of having things in instant. The concept of having things right now have stopped a lot of people to develop their own greatness. We are call for a purpose not just being a survivor but being great.

It takes process and only consistency in striving in excellence can be our guide to help us out to reach and being great. By being in the process we also learn to keep and understand our character better and wiser. It is an amazing process. And only those who stopped looking to the past can actually enjoy the process of life today.

I experienced a fiery furnace, and at the moment I am being shaped into better form of me and my being. I do not like the process but I can see that at the end it will make me a different being and bring influence of positive impact.

I challenge myself to realize and change myself from good to great. Will you join me?

Success is not a destination is a journey, it is only an event in our life after a long process

Yours truly,

Dee Ferdinand