It had been a few days since I wrote another post again. I thought that some season in my life has been really over the rainy days and dark time seems revisited me with new kind of twist. I do know that this phase of life I can pass through this time. It is not easy! Until…

This Sunday, It’s Interesting Outlook on The Dark and Daylight. I can really take deep lessons from it. See I do not know if you notice that our life has cycle. That cycle can put us on the TOP and DOWN time. So what’s so important about our cycle of life? Before I get to that… Let’s see what CYCLE that I am talking about and why should we be really understand it.

Our life consists of many aspects like Physical, Emotional, Relationship, Finance, Spiritual and keeping balance to get all 5 main aspects is not and easy job! seriously I had been long enough to endure the cycle some of us while we are young we do not understand why things happen and for what reason.

I reminisce the time when I am not on my peak condition, it is a time where I feel I am alone and only time that can bring me to pass and show me there is a glimpse of ray of hope that can make me smile again.
I am talking about the time when I had only U$30 in my bank account and I realize that I had to do something with it again. I never like how that felt but I assuredly can say that was not an easy time to understand. I need the cash to make me survived the daily living cost. I had a few moment like this similar like back in 1998 and around 2003.

Nothing was right in my life but I persist and got through that dark tunnel of my life. Another time of mine, was when I decided how my love life (yeah, I do fall in love). I do not know why this part seems so important other than money but now I know that we are not a creature who made to be single all the time. We need to partner with somebody who ready to support your vision in life and make it to the next level of dating called relationship then take matters into serious hand called “marriage”.

Nope, I am not into marriage stage but I do realize that things happen for reason and sometime those dark times make us realize nothing can be done much unless we really take time to reflect and stay still. For me it’s getting connected to higher power that I called GOD. I am a believer yeah I am, my life has never been the same but also am a man who can fail.

Tough times or Bad Times Happen To Good People or Person That You Care So Much. But life is not always sad or down all the time. You need to actually understand that when a person is in stage of darkness, we all longing for a new ray of light in our life. That ray of light make us see the best in us near future time. Your current situation may not be the best situation to go through at the moment. But keep on having new better vision and future and I know you will pass through it.

Here is what certain in life “Death” nothing can be more certain but that’s later after we finished our greater purpose why we are here. In life other things that are certain are like “People Come and Go in Your Life”, “Door Of Opportunity Knocks In or Closed For You” “Breathing Fresh Air or Drowning In Some Conflicts” and more to that. Come and Go, Open and Close, Breathe In and Breathe Out, Put On and Put Down, Sun Rise and Sunset. More you can add some cycle that happens repetitively in your life. You can not avoid this but you can learn how to use and enjoy each cycle.

It is like enlightenment in my time, when I had someone who is so closed and ready to lay down your life then she left me was not an easy time. Truly learning to be committed and accepting her decision was something that I have to respect. I know I had to struggle with time of my singlehood, relationship that has been nurtured for the past 30 months gone ashtray. As one of us stopped fighting and gone for some other new life venture, which was not really my choice. I tried to fight it back and rebuilt it. But what’s been broken sometimes become a monument to remind me that I have had to learn it.

I’ve had to close a lot of chapter in my life and what I endured was not easy, I still struggle through it like eating the bitter pill I know I had to go through this stage so I can be a grown up man. This was the darkest time in my life. Being a responsible man who take charge of his destiny and fight the fate is a big job!

Making it to the end, I see a ray of hope now. I get better now after a heavy damaged shocked situation. I will never learn to walk on my next two feet if I never had to crawl before. I will never learn to be grateful of what I have until I lost it. Sometimes unheard cry is the best therapy of your life in state of darkness. No one listen to it, except God. Why God sit and do nothing?

Actually He is there.. when friends come and give you word of encouragement (that’s God way of saying how much He cares). When you got a pat in the back and they tell you to get up again, or the whole new perspective of life that you got that’s a wisdom that you should enjoy it more and more. I thank for the new ray of hope that shone my life and changed me to become a better person and bigger heart and fight life to next level.

In conclusion, dark times is the time where time seems so long and get so toughed. Hang on the new ray of hope is there to build you up and make you a better person. During this time, discovering and enjoying the process is the best way. Nothing can be done more except sowing goodness to your current situation. helping people and what they need: attention, energy, monetarily

daylight times is the time where you feel the joy comes in the morning and fresh air of hope and you see that you can go through the tough times without understand why is it there for you. Also it is a time of reaping, you will see how every aspects of your life get in line and becoming one fine line that you can walk on it and jump on it.

Men’s Life Cycle has to endure the best of both times to understand truly what life is. I know that when I am in my low time, I want to fly higher till I forget how low I am. When I am in sad, I want to be happy. When I am worries I know that I have assurance that my life is safe and time is the one that makes me see it. When I am sick I know I want to be healed through times and love.

I can never say enough how I love the life that is bestow upon me, once I understand this I am ready to fight to get out of my darkness and reach the light. Have Faith for Greater Glory!

Never Never Give Up On Life! Learn From Your Down Time and Get Up Again! Be Awesome !Enjoy The Process and Celebrate The Event …Your Internet Buddy, Dee Ferdinand

I feel very obliged to share a lot of insight about making the right decisions in life.
Is never easy. Your right decision can make you in bigger problem than what you already have.
Your right decision can lead you to loss a lot of friends.
Your right decision can be the determining factor that a lot of people can be against you.
Your right decision can be the one single element that makes difference between failure and success.

Let’s assume you have made the right decision than the result was not like you expected. It was a total
failure. What can you do? I’d suggest change your strategy. A lot of people making a decision based
on current situation. Have you ever turned the table around? What do I mean?

Have you ever made decision based on result ? Whatever result you want to get you made your decision that can achive the result that you have set. A lot of us walking in the journey of life flow, whatever will be then will it be. It creates our life as a creature of circumstances, we do not take control of the process and event in our life but rather we are becoming victims.

We blamed our current situation as we become a victims of our own decisions. We tend to blame others for our failures. It’s funny when everything goes wrong we tend to blame but when everything goes right or smooth we forget the people that has helped us getting there.

How about if you were born in challenging situation ? Challenging financial situation, disability, racial discrimination, unwanted born by your natural parents. Can you still change your future ? Yes, there is no doubt to it. But is not easy, also nothing is impossible.

Norman Vincent Peale shared something so powerful, he has a very profound quote:

“People become really quite remarkable when they start thinking that they can do things. When they believe in themselves they have the first secret of success.”

First secret of sucess. Is to change your thinking then believe in the new changed thinking. And make decision and taking action based on the new thinking.

Have you ever felt that you started with a lot of challenges? I have had that experience when I started my entrepreneurial journey it was one of the lowest time in my life emotionally. But I kept on targeting on what I wanted in life. I do see a dot of hope that I can actually approach further and see that I am getting closer to my target of what I wanted in life.

Carl Bard is pretty unknown for his inspirational quote but read here:

“Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.”

The famous philanthropist, TV talk show host “Oprah Winfrey” did not start his life smoothly based on abused and all that she should have ended up become a wreck. But she did something in her past that has made her a very fortunate person that can help and inspire others for better life. Her interesting quote:

“Every day brings a chance for you to draw in breath, kick off your shoes and dance.”

Most of us stay where we are in comfort zone, if something not happening that means we fail to realize and take action. Bryon Pulsifer says this:

“You will never reach your goal until you start to take action, any action.”

I do like what I have seen in the life of people who were not starting right but ending as champion.
Olga Korbut has one of interesting quote about life where I categorized this as “Pushing to the limit / persistence”

“Don’t be afraid if things seem difficult in the beginning. That’s only the initial impression. The important thing is not to retreat; you have to master yourself.”

Therefore my friend, do think about how you want it to be in your life, make the right decisions to reach that goal in life that you always want it.

If you want to become a millonaire start learning about what does it take to be a millionaire, if you want to be a tycoon’s wife. Learn how to act, speak and think big as any tycoon wife has always behind the succesful tyconn. If you plan to change the world, start change your surrounding. Or if you want to invent something, start experiment today. If you happen to want people to appreciate you as who you are. Appreciate them today before you ask them to do it.

Life is an exciting journey. Let’s push through to the end as a champ!

The first insitution we are being introduced when we are all born is called family.
Everyone needs them, is where we can be depended as kid and learn how to survive.
You do not need a natural born family, if enough loved given by people surround you.
You have just got yourself family.

I do cherish every moment that I spend with my family because I know that they are people
who are closed to me and knows who I really am and even accept me when I am in my bad or
right. I can not state enough how it is so important if you want to grow you need the right
kind of people to surround you.

Yes, it’s true some of us can not choose which family should we be born. I could not be either
I remember a teasing or joke a father like to throw in family. I think i was like 5 years old,
I see my friend has most of their fathers as director of a company and they can get what they
wanted in life easily. And I asked of my that this rather shameful question ” Why didn’t you become
a director?”. Ouch! That question stucks in my father’s head but I think that’s what he is trying to
show me not by words but through his actions. He showed that even though he is not a director
he is living his passion to help people and until today he has been a great father.

When I got wiser, I told my dad how I proud I am to be born in his family as a privilege and I never
regret that God let me born in this family. He is an Awesome Dad, and my mom is also one kind of
woman. All I can say parents are like the best teacher in life. They may not be always correct all the
time but they do have some wisdom and insight. Their love for us is what we have to appreciate
in spite of who they are. Every parents will try to always make their kids proud.

This year 2008, I showed my parents that I do not need another present. The best present is their
presence in my life till today and I cherish every moment we have. Friend, if you happen to read this
and you are challenged by your situation with your parents. I can say there is HOPE!
You do not know how precious they are in life till their really not in your life. Don’t take your parents
life for granted. They love you, show them how much you care. Things can change!

Nothing is impossible. I would like to share my favorite song “Love Me Like You’ll Never Love Me Again”
It’s a very emotional message, and sang by a very soulful lady “Alicia Keys”.  Let’s start share love!

Live version of Alicia Keys hit song “Love Me Like You’ll Never Love Me Again”

I also found a duet version sang by Tilly Key (she is such a talent) and her friend trevor wesley.
I do learn that guy can sing this one with such soul.

Show to someone you care how much you love them then you realize how special they are in their life
and how they will appreciate your presence even more. Do unto others what others want do to you!

Ps. for my 29th b’day time with my family I ate at home and have fun with cousins are relatives.

Why Be Difference is Important?

Simple, coz’ you are a unique being. Being unique it does take a courage. Why would I think of that?
see if you don’t like who you are, you are always being driven by other people opinion.
Having a courage to know your weakness and your strength it is what it takes to be unique.

Imagine this .. if you want to have a recognition from a certain social group but you look up to them, and thinking what does it take for me to be accepted in the group? I have had experience that I went to a high social class group, I did not have the branded and all of the stuff that defines to be in the group. I just came of being who I am, know who I am and what I can contribute to them. I started to show them who I am and what’s my intention. I know if I was being rejected, at least I try.

At the end, I ended up being friend and quite close and I realize that they got all the beneficial facilities but inside of them are secure being. In other say that they are already unique before joining a group. They can be in any social group class and bring himself to be accepted in any class of social levels. Interesting isn’t?

I know some of us always look up, but I also have another trivia “why don’t you look down”. Help others who are in need. When big disaster came like hurricane Katrina, tsunami, flooded, or things that are out of our control then you will find that everyone is the same and when you think your social status can define and make you in better position when in time of crisis, then I hate to say this “It does not being recognized in times of trouble”.

Back in 2007, in  Jakarta we had 80% of water flooded our city, I learned a great deal of lessons your money can only be used to help other people. Make a little difference if you are non victim, but if you are victim then your money, your car, house means nothing to flood. Disaster does not pick its victim based on social class or what you did in the past. So what is left is only you and your personality. Interesting right?

Other thing when you helped someone less fortunate, it does not need that you will be in certain social class. You just have to reach out with what you have and willing to do. Let’s make a difference world today and help others. I love giving and contribute to people’s life and make difference. I realized that my life would be no meaning if only for personal gratification. Love yourself then love other people, means discover who you are and help others.

Start helping others from little things, you never know what will makes up of them

Have an awesome and blessed weekend